Things I’ve Learned Along the Way: Stick with it despite the challenges

This brightened my day and made me smile. Why? Because it reminds me to keep on trying despite the challenges that surface in life.

Through experience, I’ve learned when trying something new it almost always feels a bit odd in the beginning, because it is. It’s when we persevere against all odds and keep working on what is most important to us, whether it may be learning to ride a motorcycle, working on a new project or whatever it is that’s burning in our hearts, that success comes into focus.

Take the plunge, make the mistakes, try again, and smile knowing that you are on your way to mastery!

Are you looking for the secret to life? Change your thoughts and it changes your life

Recently a young lady I know had an incredible realization. Despite having received some difficult news, she was able to change her thinking. Instead of her usual reaction of getting bummed out about it, she went for a walk and thought about all of the things that were going right in her life. In that moment, she realized that she was on to something.

The secret that is often overlooked: Our thoughts generate our feelings; what we feel drives our actions; and our actions define who we are and who we ultimately become.

The simple practice of changing our thoughts and adopting an “attitude of gratitude” is a powerful way to take back our lives.

Who’s responsibility is it anyway? 

Have you ever read an article or watched a video that prompted you to speak up? I experienced this recently when watching the attached video of Simon Sinek from Delta Protective Services. It’s a very informative video about millennials, the impact technology has had on an entire generation, the need for instant gratification, the lack of patience and how it’s now playing out in our workplaces and in society. It’s worth the investment of time to watch through to the end.  

There are many very good points being raised in the video, however, as a leadership and personal development coach, I do not agree with the commentator’s view point that it’s the “corporations” responsibility to fix the problem.  Mr. Sinek is of the opinion that as a result of poor parenting, a dependence on immediacy created by technology, and addictions to social media, millennials have been dealt a bad hand.  He goes on to say employers need to demonstrate good leadership to help this generation in the workplace. Admittedly, these circumstances may have impacted millennials in varying degrees, including developing a dependency on social media, an inability to manage stress, the lack of particular skill sets needed to build meaningful relationships, and in some cases lack of self confidence and the feeling of worth and fulfilment as they move through life.  

Click here to view the video: Millennials

As a leader and coach I’m of the view that responsibility rests with the individual. If I have a problem or see the need to change an aspect of my life which isn’t working for me, then it’s my responsibility to address it. If for example I am addicted to alcohol, have messed up relationships and a lack of self worth as a result of a dysfunctional upbringing, it’s not my employer’s responsibility to fix it. It’s my responsibility. The employer may provide me with an opportunity to go to treatment where I can address the problem, but then recovery is up to me. I think the same applies here. 

Whether you are a millennial or part of another generation, each of us needs to take personal responsibility for addressing whatever challenge we are coming up against. We can blame our parents, technology, society, or some other set of circumstances but when the rubber hits the road, it’s up to the individual to take responsibility for the changes needed to make the best of any given situation.  

Awareness is critical.  I agree employers have a responsibility to demonstrate good leadership by providing meaningful feedback and to support individuals in the workplace.  From there, it’s the individual’s responsibility to take the steps needed to address whatever problem they may be experiencing. That’s how it worked for me. My life has not always been smooth sailing and there have been many instances where I’ve had to take the initiative to overcome personal challenges along the way. That’s how it’s been for most of us.  
The lesson I’ve learned along the way is responsibility for initiating change is an inside job.  

As a leadership and personal development coach I offer services to help individuals and employers develop plans and take concrete steps to overcome obstacles and introduce meaningful change. If you are trudging through life, if your career feels unsatisfying or perhaps you are aware of a skill set needed to help you advance or to turn yourself around, then working with a personal development coach may be right for you. 

St Julien Performance Group provides a free complimentary session to ensure there is a right fit between you and your coach. During the complimentary session I will work with you to identify your individual personal development needs and recommend a course of action. Contact us today!

Has the fear of rejection been defining your life?

I think we all grow up with some form of bogeymen in our closets, some form of rejection that has left its mark on our life.  I know I have and sometimes it holds me back from stepping fully into life. What I’ve come to realize is in the end it’s not what happened that matters, it’s what we do with it.  It’s how we turn it around that matters.  

Some of us have limited ourselves by dreading the moment when someone somewhere will say “no” to our idea, whether it’s a proposal to advance our new business, or maybe it was our dream to make a difference in the world.  Regardless of how big or how small the idea, if we walked away because of the fear of rejection, it limited us.  

If you are still hanging on to the fear of rejection then this TedTalk video is a must see.  Jim Jiang transformed his life by coming to understand his fear of rejection through an innovative and inspiring approach that is worth checking out. 

You can watch the video here: What I learned in 100 days of rejection

I hope after viewing this video it somehow inspires you to step into your fullest potential! I know it’s made me rethink mine.  

Is fear holding you back? If you hesitated, even just a little bit, then this is for you.

Recently I watched a Ted Talks presentation where the presenter, Isaac Lidsky, challenges us to let go of excuses, assumptions and fears and accept the awesome responsibility of being the creators of our own reality.  

Click here to watch this powerful and enlightening video!
If silencing the fear and quieting the doubts feels scary, or you’re not sure how to even start, working with an experienced certified coach may be the right step for you. If you think coaching is something you might be interested in trying, contact me to set up a no obligation complimentary coaching session. 

Don’t hesitate, just do it!

Is it time to reconsider what’s on your bucket list?  Watch this video and find out for sure!

So what is on your bucket list?  If you are Canadian you likely know who Chris Hadfield is.  And if not, you are about to be introduced to one of Canada’s retired astronauts and motivation gurus.  He has a very interesting approach towards having a “bucket list” and one that you might want to consider.  Click on the link below to view his two minute video.

What’s on your bucket list?

After some reflection, if you find that your bucket isn’t being filled up in the way you would like it to be, then it might be time to get serious and focus on what’s important to you.  This might involve your career, work life balance or maybe that special dream you’ve been putting off.

If you are serious about wanting to make a meaningful change, take advantage of a free complimentary coaching session to see if having a coach is right for you. Contact us today and start filling up your bucket with what matters most to you!

Do you have a dream that you have given up on? Then this is for you!

As a leadership and personal development coach I am always inspired by stories such as the one in the following video.  As I watched it I was reminded of the importance of keeping our dreams alive regardless of how remote achieving them may seem.  Click on the link below to view the video:

Keeping your dream alive

Do you have a dream you’ve put on the shelf?  Maybe it’s to further your education, change your line of work to one that sets your heart on fire, or perhaps it’s publishing the book that you’ve always dreamt of writing, then perhaps it’s time to dust off that dream and breathe life back into it?

When you think about your dream is there a little voice inside of you saying “I can’t possibly do this” or “that’s for other people, that’s not for me” then professional coaching might be for you!

As an accredited experienced leadership and personal development coach I work closely with individuals like yourself to determine what’s really important to you.  I’ll help you develop a concrete and realistic plan and then I’ll help you create the momentum you need to take the important steps necessary to realize your dream.  What’s even more important, with your permission, I’ll hold you accountable to deliver on what you’ve agreed to do.

If taking the first steps towards achieving your dreams seems daunting, working with a supportive and well trained coach may be just what you need.

Please give me a call if you are ready to make some positive and meaningful changes to your life!